I'll help you out a little- The numbers/pins for RadioShack Relay# 275-218.
Remember the wires on the ECU side of the cut should be dangling, except for the violet wire that just gets tapped. The violet wire is the power wire for the 4WD ECU, so juice still needs to flow through it.
‘Lt Blue’ = 6
‘Lt Green’ = 5
‘Pink’ = 4
‘Lt GN/Black’ = 1
‘Violet’ (a.k.a purple) = 2 & 3
‘Red/Black’ = 7
‘Wht/Blk’ = 8 (ground wire)